Children Matter 1b

There are questions at the end of chapter 1 but near the end of the chapter the authors briefly talk about (metaphors for) children's ministry that
- informs (cognitive formation)
- forms (everything else, more relational)
- transforms (the work of the Holy Spirit - we can only facilitate)
- deforms (unfortunate but it happens)

They say, "Some metaphors for children's ministry may actually be deforming, particularly when they conflict with the purpose of the ministry. The ways this 'deforming' happens are usually subtle. It happens when an essential aspect of ministry is either omitted or overshadowed by some facet of the metaphor, so that children get a distorted view of God and/or the Christian life." (CM p. 23)

My question: What things have the potential to deform the faith of children (ideas, interactions, activities...)? What words, what actions distort, misrepresent, or miscommunicate who God is and what He asks of us? As the authors say, "The ways this 'deforming' happens are usually subtle." How does it happen? The mill stones that Jesus warns us about.